Why Women Cheat
Let me start by saying: this is NOT a list of "excuses" to get cheating wives and cheating girlfriends off the hook or pardon their hurtful actions. Anyone who cheats in a committed relationship is dead wrong, no question about it.
However, as a woman writing this, I'm going to describe/explain the events/emotional reactions to these events that might lead a female in a committed relationship to become disinterested and yes, start looking the other way for possible prospects.
Obviously, the most responsible, "grown up" thing to do in this situation is talk things over with your partner and really work toward enjoying each other, accepting each other for all your mutual faults and all that.
But if you've tried like hell and still it's not happening between you two, then sometimes, well, you just have to say "thanks for the memories" and part ways.
Women (or men for that matter) who cheat on their husbands or wives do so out of cowardice. They obviously know deep down inside that on some level they have a good thing, or that they greatly depend on the other person for quality of life, etc. -- and that's why instead of just cutting the relationship umbilical cord, they remain attached to their partner "on paper" and sneak around on the side to fulfill whatever it is they aren't getting.
Regardless of why it's wrong, here are a few things that can eventually drive a woman to seek out a romantic companion outside of the relationship she committed herself to...
Not enough sex.
Maybe in the beginning it was all about heating things up between the sheets... but after a couple of years, the flames of passion do die down for many couples. Sexual encounters are less and less. A man's eye will wander... why not a female's? It doesn't make it right, but it's reality.
The sex is boring.
Same old "foreplay" (or lack of it), same old moves, same old positions, same old seven minutes of bumping uglies the exact same way for the last seven years. Guys, we feel the lack of love just as much as you do. Couples need to make a real effort to be sexually adventurous if they want the romance to last.
Mechanical hand.
Ask any woman who's been in a relationship for at least some time about "mechanical hand" or "dead fish hand" as it refers to fooling around with one's spouse or partner. Now, don't get me wrong, having a guy offer to help you out in the orgasm department is never an unwelcomed gesture; however, it's the enthusiasm that really makes the act the most enjoyable for us. Yawning, gazing distractedly at the game on the TV behind our heads, dozing off. Mechanical tongue comes in at a close second.
Lack of closeness.
Couples who talk to each other, spend quality time together, share the details of their days, share responsibilities, and set and reach goals together are the ones who manage to work through the rough patches that inevitably crop up in long-term relationships. And I mean really talk to each other - not the old "How was your day, fine," go back to surfing on the computer - that's a conversation that might as well never have happened. A woman who feels alienated by her husband might seek companionship in another man - and the closeness that forms can very well end up the preclude to the great sex she's been missing. Again, it doesn't make it right - but the point is we should open our eyes to what may be lacking in our relationships before trust is betrayed.
Resentment.
Some relationships which start out passionate are actually just two people who have a lot of tension between them. Add to that tension the "typical" ego struggles that occur between two people sharing a life together, and then subtract good communication - and you have an accumulation of misunderstandings, old hurts and growing bitterness. Most communication/behavior in relationships happens in patterns, where the actions and words of each individual become predictable over time. If a woman feels that her requests fall on deaf ears, or if her partner has repeatedly hurt her emotionally with cutting words, she may turn to another for the support and nurturing she has been missing at home. As one would expect, this will often lead to extramarital activities.
They're just plain selfish.
Excuses and reasons aside, some women cheat just without remorse because they're selfish bitches. They don't want to "work on the relationship," they have no respect for a partner who has sacrificed their life to be with them. They don't care about the husband who works hard every day to support them and their children, and they'll do anything to self-gratify even if it means destroying the ones who love them more than anyone. There is no help for such people and we can only hope that they contract an STD or spend the rest of their lives alone and miserable.
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